Every year since I was fairly young, 10 or 11, my father has asked me the same question on my birthday:
“What have you learned this year?”
I look forward to this annual ritual, and I usually start thinking about it some days ahead of time. Well, today is my birthday, and my Dad reads my blog, so I’m going to go ahead and answer the question now (Dad, I look forward to discussing it with you later!).
This year I’ve learned some harsh truths:
- Hard work isn’t always rewarded in the way you hope it will be;
- Adults in professional situations will smile in your face and lie about you behind your back (yeah yeah I know, but it still surprises me);
- I am vulnerable to feelings of powerlessness.
I’ve also learned some wonderful truths:
- I’ve learned not to panic when things go wrong – the situation is rarely as bad as it seems at first;
- I’ve learned how to embrace my disappointment and move on;
- I’ve learned that gratitude is the best defense against despair;
- I’ve learned that what I think is a mistake may actually be just a guidepost on the way to a better destination;
- I’ve learned that I’d rather be happy than right;
- I’ve learned that a simple act of kindness, shown to a complete stranger, is the greatest power in the universe.
I don’t have the answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe, and everything, but I do know this: if you are lucky enough to have people in your life who you love and who love you, the best use of your time on this planet is to protect and nurture that love. By all means do your work, engage in thoughtful debate, support the arts, give to the needy, explore the sacred divine, take care of your body, but – even as you pursue these good things – never forget to love the people in your life.
And never underestimate the impact you have on other people whether you know them or not. It’s a responsibility we all have, to lead with compassion, to listen in order to understand, and not to add to the conflict and turmoil in the world. This is what I’ve learned. My hope is that I am able to live it every day.
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